How One Retired Police Officer is Changing Perceptions of Down Syndrome

Ethan Saylor

The name alone brings instant sadness to the minds of special needs parents everywhere. A life taken too soon. A senseless death.

The 26-year-old man with Down syndrome died after police restrained him in a movie theater that he refused to leave. Ethan stayed for a second viewing of a movie, without having paid for it. The aide that was with him at the time begged the off-duty police to not aggravate Ethan; that his mom would soon arrive and make him leave. The death was ruled a homicide as a result of asphyxia, and the off-duty police officers involved are now being tried in a civil law suit.

GTO Cadet, Tyler Caldwell (left) and GTO Founder, Travis Atkins (right)

21-year law enforcement veteran, Travis Atkins, says the Ethan Saylor death was a travesty that should have never happened. Now he’s started a non-profit to help change perceptions of people with intellectual disabilities within the law enforcement community.

Growth Through Opportunity (GTO Cadets) is a program designed to provide adults of all ages with Autism Spectrum Disorder, Down Syndrome, Cerebral Palsy, and other unique challenges an opportunity to gain valuable job skills and social experience.

“First responders and GTO Cadets grow immensely in their respective levels of understanding by being partnered together over a 16-week period. This drastically decreases negative encounters during future, real-life situations,” Officer Atkins explains.

I got a chance to hear Officer Atkins talk at the 1st Annual NDSS #DSWorks conference. He brought along one of GTO’s first cadet graduates, Tyler Caldwell, who happens to have Down syndrome.

“I got to wear a uniform just like all the other officers. When I was at State Special Olympic Games, I got to wear it and march in the torch lighting ceremonies with officers from other cities. People would recognize me when I was out as one of the GTO Cadets. That really made me happy. All my friends wanted to be in the program, too. Police officers are really nice people and are my friends,” Caldwell describes.

After spending 16 weeks as a volunteer cadet, Caldwell got a job at Kroger. “People recognized me from Police Department,” Caldwell says. And Officer Atkins says that’s the end goal. “Our goal is to enhance confidence, employability, and quality of life for participants. From a law enforcement officer’s perspective, there’s no better way to learn than by first-hand experiences in a controlled environment,” Atkins explains.

With the assistance of a first responder, cadets are taught specific tasks inside the department, as well as in the community.

“They assist our police department with crime prevention presentations, role playing at the police academy (which helps mold the minds of young recruits), and playing the role of the National Crime Prevention Council’s McGruff the Crime Dog®,” Atkins says. The City of Roanoke even has a sheriff’s vehicle and ambulance with the GTO logo, which helps break down barriers within the community.

Atkins says it’s community inclusion that will help prevent another tragedy like the death of Ethan Saylor. “GTO challenges other agencies across the nation to be pioneers and trend setters in the field. Be creative. Be innovative. Consider incorporating these fine individuals into your agency.”

To learn more about Growth Through Opportunity check out their website here or their FB page here.

July 13, 2017July 12, 2017

‘Seeing the Forest For the Trees’ in my Son’s Future with Down Syndrome

My son, Troy, is almost 5-years-old. When he was born I knew no one and nothing about Down syndrome.

I was hungry for any information I could find about Down syndrome. I spent the first month of his life on Google (bad idea, by the way). I quickly graduated to national conventions, advocacy groups, and now specialized training in special education law.

Secret Facebook groups and specialized books taught me all I need to know…Or so I thought.

Nothing can replace trial by fire. Living life with someone who rocks an extra chromosome gives you a front row seat to the docudrama that is Trisomy 21. Troy has taught me so much about how outdated stereotypes and low expectations can warp your perception of disability.

But living with a preschooler with Down syndrome often reminds me of the saying “It’s hard to see the forest for the trees.”

For a while now, I’ve been searching for ways to steal a glimpse into Troy’s possible future. I really want to see “the forest.” One way I’ve done this is through a communications workshop with adult self-advocates. Simply talking and interacting with adults with Down syndrome on a regular basis has taught me so much about what our future may hold and how to plan for the best.

This led to an opportunity, from our local Down syndrome group’s Executive Director, to talk about the impact of our communications workshop on a local radio show.

Walter (bottom left) with MVDSA Executive Director, Willie Cox, and I at iHeart Radio

The natural pick for my co-interviewee was Walter, a 45-year-old iHeart Radio lover!

When we showed up to the radio conglomerate, Walter already had long-time friendships with every disc jockey, knew which of the 7 radio stations they were assigned to, and the exact times they each went live. Everyone hearts Walter!

I worked in radio for some time during college, and I came to appreciate the intimacy of the medium. You have to capture that emotion and authenticity the first go round, because your listeners can’t rewind or reread your story.

A common rally cry in the disability community is “Nothing about us, without us!”

Without Walter our story of advocacy would be flawed. We spoke with DJ, Kim Faris, about needed services and jobs for individuals with Down syndrome. Walter nailed the interview. He gave our radio interview the authenticity and emotion the audience will remember.

He was direct: “Hi, I’m Walter. I have Down syndrome and I’m proud of who I am.”

Not to mention, funny: “107.7’s DJ, Chris Davis, promised to pay me if I mentioned him today.”

I like to imagine an expecting or new parent with what seems like a scary diagnosis randomly tuning in just as Walter is proudly talking about his job. I know I would have loved to hear Walter when I was in the throes of Troy’s first few months.

At 45-years-old, Walter did not get all the great services Troy receives through early intervention and inclusive education. Still, Walter thrives! It’s so important to remember what you’re actually advocating for sometimes. Just like Troy, Walter deserves a life of self-determination and choice. We really have to listen to our self-advocates at all stages of life to understand their needs and how to pave a better path forward.

You can listen to our radio interview live in the Dayton area on July 9th starting at 7 a.m. on any iHeart Radio Station: 107.7, 103.9, 94.5, 99.9, 104.7, and 106.5.

Or you can listen online here.

From Left: DJ Kim Faris, MVDSA Executive Director Willie Cox, Self-Advocate Walter, and I

July 3, 2017June 27, 2018

This Land is Made For My Son with Down Syndrome, Too

The Fourth of July is a time of reflection of our nation’s past and present. As a special needs mom and former history teacher, I often marvel at how far our nation has come in one generation as it relate to the human rights of individuals with disabilities.

Surely, when Thomas Jefferson wrote we have the right to “life, liberty and pursuit of happiness” in the Declaration of Independence he wasn’t thinking of people like my son, Troy, who has Down syndrome. Still, this document and our nation’s constitution has been used as proof that my son deserves a life of choice and self-determination with needed supports.

When I was born in 1982, individuals with Down syndrome had a life expectancy of 25-years-old. Many still lived in neglected and abusive institutions, were denied life saving surgeries, and underwent forced sterilizations as approved by the Supreme Court in 1927.

One generation later, in 2012, when my son, Troy, was born life expectancy more than doubled to 60-years-old. Many laws contributed to this amazing feat, and one of the most important was Medicaid. The social program was a bipartisan solution to healthcare for the poor, and was signed into law by President Lyndon Johnson in 1965.

In 1981, Ronald Reagan approved the Community and Home Based Waiver Provision within Medicaid. The waivers are rooted in the idea that individuals with disabilities are happier, safer, and more free in their home and community. Not to mention, it’s a cheaper alternative to institutionalizing individuals with disabilities.

The healthcare proposal that recently passed the House of Representatives and is currently in the Senate would cut Medicaid by $834 billion dollars over the next decade. Half of those cuts would come from “per capita based caps.” This means, instead of a federal and state partnership, the federal government would cap the amount of money they give to states to a fixed amount. Cash strapped states would likely cut Community and Home Based programs first.

Troy playing baseball with his typical peers

In a time of growing distrust of government, you need to know that the federal government has made a huge positive impact on the lives of our nation’s most vulnerable citizens. My son is proof of this progress. At almost 5-years-old, Troy, can do everything his neuro-typical twin brother can do. He’s potty trained just like his typical twin, can read and sound out simple sentences like most kids his age, and plays on the same tee ball team as his typical peers.

What you may not realize is the supports he receives during early intervention and in his inclusive preschool (like PT, OT, and speech) are partially funded through Medicaid. When my son reaches adulthood Medicaid provides job training, transportation, and independent living supports through local and state run programs like Project Search. At birth we put our son on Ohio’s Medicaid waiver waitlist for these adult supports and services. As Medicaid stands right now, that waitlist is 18-25 years long. What will happen if these cuts are approved? Likely we’ll never see the end of the waitlist; if we do, the services will likely not be what they are today.

Ohio Governor John Kasich opposes the Senate bill and in a letter with three other GOP governors stated: “It calls into question coverage for the vulnerable and fails to provide the necessary resources to ensure that no one is left out, while shifting significant costs to the states.” Over 700,000 Ohioans would be impacted by Medicaid cuts if approved.

Troy and I met with Senator Rob Portman’s staff in June. We shared our Medicaid story, but staffers gave us no indication of how Senator Portman felt about the disability community. After the Senate delayed the bill, Senator Portman came out in opposition to it, citing the opioid crisis here in Ohio. For sure, drug treatment and mental health will also be negatively impacted, but the disability community must not be ignored. Call Senator Portman or your own Senators today at (202) 224-3121 , remind them how far we’ve come as a nation in the treatment of our most vunerable citizens. Tell them to save Medicaid, and vote NO to any cuts or caps on the program.

June 28, 2017June 28, 2017

Employment Success for One Self-Advocate Includes Promotion to Manager

25-year-old Jack Murphy is proving competitive and satisfying employment for individuals with Down syndrome is possible with hard work and dedication.

Jack recently received a promotion to manager at Cactus Grill in Kansas City, Missouri.

His level of success is still uncommon in the Down syndrome community. With a 70% unemployment rate, many individuals with Down syndrome are lucky to even have a job and most are not working full time or in a high-valued position.

So how did Jack beat the odds?

“I have loyalty to the customers and staff at Cactus Grill. I’ve worked there for over 9 years, it’s a huge part of my life, and my job makes me hold my head high,” Jack Murphy says.

His mom, Bridgett, says Jack faces the same challenges as other individuals with Down syndrome, but the focus in their family has always been on hard work and shared responsibility.

At 2-years-old his parents created a vision statement for Jack with 3 specific goals:

By adulthood, Jack would live away from home.
Jack would have a satisfying job.
Jack would have a satisfying social life.

“Everything we do will be moving him towards those 3 goals. Whether we did full-inclusion in school, or some variation of it. Sometimes a general education classroom was important for the development of appropriate social or behavior skills. Any time we met with his IEP team we reviewed our vision statement, and asked if he had moved towards his goals,” Bridgett explains.

Jack was setting the family table by 4-years-old and always had responsibilities at home.

“We all work. Our family works. As Jack grew older we were always asking our kids ‘what do you want to be when you grow up?’ Bridgett says.

At 16, Jack told his mom he wanted a job at their favorite local restaurant, Cactus Grill. “I made her drive me to the restaurant to apply,” Jack describes.

Jack Graduating from University of Arkansas

“One piece of advice I have for parents and young adults with Down syndrome is to make yourself known at the places you frequent. Introduce yourself and your child. Jack got the job at Cactus Grill, in part, because they already knew him. It’s always about who you know,” explains Bridgett.

Jack started as a hostess in high school, but after graduation left for college at both the University of Iowa and the University of Arkansas. “The University of Arkansas program had an internship in the third year. I had to make a decision in my heart. Should I stay and complete the internship, or come back and take a permanent job with Cactus Grill,” Jack explains.

He decided to come home, and Cactus Grill’s new general manager realized Jack’s loyalty and work ethic was unmatched, and decided to give him a promotion to hostess manager.

“I met Jack 8 years ago while serving at a sister restaurant where Jack was a hostess. We went out to the movies together and I really got to know him. He’s a really moving guy; such a hard worker. I don’t think he was always given the opportunities he deserves. When I came back on as general manager I realized everyone loves Jack. Quite a few people come in just to see him,” Cactus Grill General Manager Paul states.

Bridgett says her son was especially moved after an inspiring breakout session at the National Down Syndrome Congress Convention by Tim of Tim’s Place. “Tim talked about what it takes to run a successful business, and Jack suddenly realized he deserved the same success as Tim. He went from being just an employee to a committed member of Cactus Grill,” Bridgett describes.

“I love the new position. My responsibilities are running the hostess stand. I talk about the line up. And deal with the customers,” Jack explains.

Paul says more employers should hire people with Down syndrome. “My friends and I often talk about why other restaurants haven’t brought on employees like Jack and Carolyn (another Cactus Grill employee with Down syndrome). They do everything by the book and give 100%. I’m amazed at what great workers they are,” Paul describes.

As Jack starts his new chapter at Cactus Grill he has some advice for others that want to follow in his footsteps:

“My advice is to be honest about yourself. Show them what you got. Go in there and apply for the job. It’s my confidence and loyalty, love and passion that got me here,” Jack exclaims.

June 27, 2017June 27, 2017

Self-Advocates Learn Body Language Speaks Louder than Words

The adult self-advocates in our monthly communications workshop are learning how body language shapes people’s perceptions.

Every month a group of up to 9 self-advocates get together to hone their communication skills. Our short-term goal is to prepare these adults with Down syndrome to lead our advocacy table at the Buddy Walk in September. In the long-term, our hope is these new communication skills will lead to more involvement in the community and employment opportunities.

Self-advocate, Anna, watching herself talk in the mirror

This month’s topic is non-verbal communication, which experts say makes up for 70% of any given conversation. All of us used body language long before we learned to talk. For individuals with Down syndrome, non-verbal communication may be their primary mode of communicating their needs and wants.

What is your body telling your audience?

That’s the question we posed to our self-advocates. Although they all used many non-verbal cues in conversation, almost all were unaware of the impact of those cues. A long look in the mirror brought some of our negative body language to light.

Lack of eye contact and looking “closed off” were two of the most common mistakes we learned by taking a look in the mirror.

Anna is a particularly confident communicator. She always made great eye contact and uses hand gestures to explain her point. But after seeing herself in the mirror she remarked “I need to remember to keep smiling.”

Theater Educator, Stephanie Radford (emphasize on the “RAD”), gave our self-advocates pointers on “matching”. This technique requires the listener to copy the expression and emotion of the talker. “It’s important to show you are listening and empathize with the talker, without saying a word,” Radford explains.

Radford stresses the action of body language is more memorable than what you say.

This is especially important for our self-advocates who are often unsure of what to say or concerned that they might not be intelligible or understood. At the Buddy Walk we stressed that their body language should exude an air of confidence and openness.

They’ll be introducing Congressmen and our mayor at the Buddy Walk, as well as teaching attendees about Down syndrome and programs our local group provides self-advocates. It’s important that they use their expression, eye contact, and gestures to show they’re the experts on all things Buddy Walk related.

In three short sessions I have have seen improvement in our self-advocates communications skills. I can’t wait to see them in action during our 15th Annual Buddy Walk!

To learn more about our self-advocate communication workshop click here.

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