Dear Hunter and Troy,
Five years ago today you entered our life in dramatic fashion and changed us forever. Your first five years have been full of adventure and love, and we can’t wait to see what joys await in your future.
Below are memories from a time in your life that you will likely never remember. Treasure these memories and each other!
You won’t remember when your Daddy and I found out you were TWINS…and BOYS! We were so excited! We cried tears of joy, and started planning the adventures we would have with our little “man cubs.”
You won’t remember your traumatic birth. The worry in our faces as Baby A, Hunter, had difficulty breathing at first and Baby B, Troy…well, we knew as soon as we saw your beautiful face, and we cried tears of fear.
You won’t remember how your Daddy and I watched you sleep snuggled together in your bassinet. We called you the “baby symphony,” because your sweet infant breath sang a duet to us nightly.
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You won’t remember how proud your Great-Grandfather was of you both. He would tell me of his own special bond with his brother who was injured at birth and had an intellectual disability; how it made him a better man. Papa passed away when you were six months old.
You won’t remember how you first discovered each other out of the womb; looking into each others eyes with a reassurance that life together would be enough.
You won’t remember your unique personalities blossoming. Hunter we jokingly called “cling-on,” because he loved all things Mommy. Troy was our #boyfilledwithjoy, never complaining; taking life as it came–hardships and all.
You won’t remember reaching those all important first milestones, and how I studied every difference. Hunter mastered these milestones effortlessly, while Troy battled twice as hard for twice as long to keep up.
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You won’t remember your obsession with simple joys like a bubble bath, sweet children’s books, and a train chugging past our home.
You won’t remember how you both treated Troy’s thrice weekly therapy sessions like just another day at the playground. Never complaining, often laughing and snuggling therapists. Teaching me that although disability can often bring hardship, it can also bring great reward and should be treated like a natural part of life.
You won’t remember your secret twin language. How Hunter would lead Troy in a conversation and then translate what was said to me in great detail.
You won’t remember the endless tickle-fests and wrestling matches with Daddy. Then again, you just may remember because they’ve never stopped.
You won’t remember your first day of preschool. How I followed your school bus to school with such trepidation, but so excited for you to start this journey together.
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You won’t remember the day your baby sister was born. Hunter, the proud oldest brother, never letting her go; while Troy tried ignoring the new addition hoping she might go away. LOL
You won’t remember how your mother transformed from a stay-silent, conformist to a fierce protector and advocate of inclusion for children with disabilities. And your father’s transformation to a more empathetic doctor.
You won’t remember Hunter becoming a natural leader that often parented better than I did. Or how Troy impressed every adult with his always appropriate “please” and “thank you” and “your welcome.”
You won’t remember how much fun we had just being together.
You won’t remember, but your Dad and I will. We’ll remember and hope that you both carry these formative years with you throughout life. Don’t forget who you are and where you came from. Remember the simple things in life, fight for what’s right, and love fiercely.
We love you!
Your Mom and Dad